Amazing Grace – A Story of Strength, Resilience, and Grace

Note: I was going to post this yesterday when it happened but we had wildfires in our area that kept us concerned and preparing in case we had to evacuate. Today is a better day so I’m sharing it now.

Amazing Grace

Early last winter, an injured doe showed up alone on our property. She looked like she might have been hit by a car as her right-front leg was disfigured from the shoulder down making it unusable. Her face showed the depth of her pain, and so did her thin, frail body.

I cried when I saw her.

I post a lot of pictures showing the beauty of the wildlife that wanders our property and share the joy it gives my husband, Michael, and me. But I’ve never really shared the other, less-joyful side of living in nature, which is witnessing the challenges and life-and-death struggles it faces every day.

This particular injured doe is that “other side” that I’ve witnessed but have not shared until now.

This deer, who we named Grace, showed up when I was in my battle with cancer and going through grueling treatment for it, and, for some reason, in Grace I saw myself. I felt that Grace and I were kindred spirits not only in our pain but also in our struggle to survive.

I have found it hard to watch wildlife when it’s struggling, knowing that there isn’t much we can do to help it, leaving us, at times, to witness nature “run its course.”

In Grace’s case, Michael and I knew the only thing we could do to help was to give her food. So we did. We heard that other neighbors gave her food, too, all of us hoping that it would give her the strength she needed to make it through the winter.

This beautiful, helpless creature in so much pain and struggling to walk, especially in the deep snow, haunted me. My heart was often heavy, thinking about how she was suffering every minute of every day, as I, myself, was experiencing the same kind of constant and relentless pain.

In some way, I felt that we depended on each other for our individual survival – for Grace it was the food we provided her and for me it was the strength her infrequent and temporary presence gave me, reminding me that if she could endure her challenges and survive, so could I.

Every morning I would look out our kitchen window for Grace, but most of the time she wasn’t there. She would be gone for weeks at a time, and when she was, we thought the worst: she probably had died.

But just when we were sure that she had, she would show up, sometimes with our neighborhood deer Rudy, who we think is her mom, skinny and still unable to use her injured leg yet, miraculously, still very much alive.

Winter turned to spring and spring to summer, and Grace’s visits to our property were few and far between. Her last visit was on May 8th of this year and she didn’t look good (see attached picture).

A few days ago, Michael and I were talking about Grace because it had been so long since we’d seen her; sadly, we both agreed that she probably had, finally, succumbed to her injuries and the harsh elements of nature that she faced handicapped.

But this morning Rudy showed up with two other does. When I saw them in our back yard, I went out on our deck to say Hi to Rudy, and when I did, I noticed that one of the does had a bit of a limp and her right-front leg looked different than her other three legs.

Could it be Grace? I wondered.

I studied her for a while, and even though she looked different because she had gained quite a bit of weight and was walking almost normal, I could tell, without a doubt, that it was Grace.

My heart was overjoyed so I ran inside to share the good news with Michael!

We both went back outside, and after carefully looking at her, Michael agreed that it was Grace.

With big smiles on our faces we watched Grace be a “normal” deer, amazed that she had not only survived but also that she was now thriving, her face no longer showing any pain and her injured leg now strong and usable.

The picture with this post shows the amazing transformation Grace has made from when she was here in May to today.

We came back inside and I watched Grace, Rudy, and the other deer wander around our back yard then off and out of sight. As I did, tears filled my eyes as I thought about the individual and collective journeys Grace and I have been on the past year and how far we both have come.

This morning, Grace reminded me that, even when a positive outcome seems impossible, or when the odds are stacked against us, or when our days are dark and our challenges big, if we just keep going, putting one foot (or one hoof) in front of the other, miracles can happen.

If you are facing a big, or small, challenge right now, I hope you remember this, and that you find strength from Grace’s amazing story and how this little creature defied the odds!

Thank you, Grace, for showing all of us what strength, resilience, and grace look like. I will remember you forever.

Love,

Marie Kukula-Tyner

Aftermath


Two weeks ago the port that was placed in my chest 11 months ago in preparation for my chemo treatments was removed, unceremoniously ending my cancer journey.

I’ve hated that port since the day it was put in because of the pain it caused and what it represented, so I was relieved to get it out. But since having it removed, grief and gratitude have found me in the “aftermath” of this challenging chapter in my life.

With no more treatments, tests, or doctor’s appointments ahead of me, I’m left on my own to put back together the pieces of my life. Actually, I don’t want to “put back together the pieces,” because in my old life I got sick. So Michael and I are working to build a new, better life.

It’s interesting, and a bit awkward, to be here in the “aftermath” of my old life while trying to create a new life because I’m a completely different person, literally and figuratively, than I was a year ago. I’m finding that I need a lot of patience, kindness, and love from myself and others in this fragile place.

What I’m feeling inspired the poem “Aftermath”. I wrote this poem not only because of what I’m going through but also because I believe there are many other people who are in a similar place, whether from a loss, or illness, or an ending of their old life, and also from what we’ve experienced together with the global pandemic.

I hope you find strength in my words.

Aftermath
 
The waves have subsided,
but the ripples continue on
And while the tide has turned,
its current can still be strong
 
It wouldn’t take much, at this moment,
for us to be carried out to sea
For we have fought a long, hard battle,
that has left us weak and on our knees
 
So how do we find the strength to rise,
from the aftermath we are now in?
And after losing so much,
how do we believe that we can ever, again, win?
 
Starting from where we are,
seems like a million miles from where we need to go
But we must dare to reach so high,
even though we’re standing in a place that’s so low
 
Since giving up is not an option,
one step at a time is all we can take
Leaving behind a world that is shattered,
thankful we were strong enough to survive its break
 
Marie Kukula-Tyner

THE POWER AND VALUE OF RECONNECTING WITH NATURE

Me on the mountaintop with wildflowers..

If ever I am lost, the mountaintop is where I’ll find me …

This line is from my poem Meet Me On the Mountaintop, and it has never felt truer than it did yesterday when I was on the mountaintop.

I love the mountaintop behind our home. Over the years it has provided me peace, comfort, inspiration, ideas, wisdom, and more lessons than I can count, and it’s where most of the information in THE SPIRIT FACTOR came to me.

Unfortunately, yesterday was only the second time that I’d been up to the mountaintop in a year due to a health issue I had.

Yesterday I realized not only how much I’ve missed the mountaintop but also how much I need it.

The pandemic, politics, my health and other personal challenges, and just living in extraordinarily challenging times on the planet, have dragged me and my spirit down, leaving me feeling tired and oh-so uninspired.

But, yesterday, when I got close to the top of the mountain and caught my first glimpse of the yellow wildflowers in full bloom covering the mountainside, I could feel every part of me come alive.

I literally felt a jolt, like I had been plugged back in to an energetic life force that I didn’t even know I was disconnected from.

It felt incredible … and intoxicating! I didn’t want the feeling I had to end so I wandered around for a bit in pure bliss, taking pictures (including the one in this post) and drinking in the sights, smells, and warmth of the glorious spring day.

On the mountaintop, as in most places in nature, the man-made noise and obstructions we are exposed to in everyday life cease to exist, giving way to magic and miracles.

Random thoughts organize and form ideas.

Words arrange themselves into poetic verses.

Fear transforms into courage.

Lost souls are found.

Anger, doubts, questions, judgments, and regrets disappear.

Hurts heal.

Forgiveness is given and granted.

Love expands.

Wholeness is attained.

Possibilities abound.

Time is irrelevant.

The concepts of life and death are meaningless.

Negativity and lies have no fertile ground to grow in.

What I realized yesterday, when I felt the familiar presence and power of nature, is that I want to do certain SPIRIT FACTOR seminars on walks through the mountains, rather than inside at some uninspired venue. I want the earth to be the classroom floor, the sky to be the ceiling, and the trees my fellow teachers.

I can only imagine the incredible experience this would create not only for the participants but also for me, and the transformation that would take place for all of us.

I do believe this SPIRIT FACTOR Experience is something I must make happen! Until I do, I urge you to make time to spend in nature so you can reconnect with its incredible power and be transformed by its beauty and presence, as I was yesterday.

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In Spirit,

Marie Kukula-Tyner

Maybe We Can Finally Breathe

I wrote this poem last year, right after George Floyd was killed, while the protests were going on. A lot happened in my life since then that prevented me from doing what I wanted to do with this poem, which was make a video for it.

Yesterday I watched the closing arguments in the trial of the officer who killed George Floyd, and I felt compelled to share my poem with the world.

Now, with the verdict in, maybe we are finally making some progress and the last line of my poem has a possibility of becoming a reality.

I Can’t Breathe

I thought I was waking up to just another day

But I saw something, and could not look away

The images play over and over again in my mind

I try to understand, but no answers can I find

This was no mistake, so don’t be mistaken

A life was not lost, in the light of day it was taken

Once again we bear witness to a truth so many still deny,

as “I can’t breathe,” once a plea, now becomes a battle cry

Unarmed, but not unharmed, in peace, forever, he does lay

Adding yet another debt, to a balance no one is willing to pay

How can two men go down on one knee, yet stand so far apart?

And though they beat the same, have such different hearts?

It’s time we stand united, and stop writing this same tragic history

Together, creating a land, where every woman and every man, are finally, and truly, free

Marie Kukula-Tyner

IT’S BEEN A WHILE, BUT I’M BACK!

It’s been a while since I’ve posted. So much has happened to me personally and to us collectively over the past year. While our world faced a global pandemic, I was dealing with my own health challenge.

I won’t go into the details now, but I will tell you that it was the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I’m happy to say that I am on the road to a complete recovery.

I’m still processing everything we individually and collectively went through over the past year, but what I learned, to a greater extent in that time, is that our health is truly the most valuable asset we have.

Dr. William J. Mayo, one of the founders of the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, understood this. I took the picture above when I was at the Mayo Clinic last year because what it said resonated deeply with me.

Dr. Mayo’s words have stayed with me since then, especially as I watched so many people in our nation, and around the world, get so sick or die from Covid-19.

While a pandemic is a rare occurrence that we individually don’t have much control over, how we take care of our health on a daily basis is something we do have control of.

Taking care of our health is the single most important thing we can do, because if we lose our health, we lose our ability to be independent, to have a bright future, and to pursue our dreams. If we get sick, we end up struggling to get through our days and we find ourselves surviving instead of thriving.

While the emotional and physical toll of an illness can be tough on the patient and their caregiver, the financial consequences can be devastating for those who are under insured or who don’t have insurance. So taking care of our health and the health of our loved ones is the best investment we can make on many levels.

In Section Two, Obstructions to Spirit, of THE SPIRIT FACTOR, the first obstructions I talk about are Our Health and Food because I feel our health and the food we eat can be the biggest obstructions to spirit we have.

While I’ve considered myself to be educated about food and a pretty healthy eater over the past decade, I realized the past few months that I could improve my diet a lot. This is not such an easy task when we are bombarded with unhealthy fast-food commercials constantly on TV and so much of the food available in our groceries stores is processed and lacks any nutritional value.

But after what I went through, I’m committed to cutting out most processed foods and switching to a more whole foods plant-based diet. Every part of my being is telling me that this is the right thing to do. I feel by making this change, I will put the odds in my favor for not only recovering completely now but also for staying healthy and happy in the future.

Rather than looking at this change as some sort of deprivation, I’m looking at it as a joyful thing, knowing that I’m giving my body the nourishment it needs to heal and become stronger every day. This is exciting to me!

I have a lot left in life that I want to accomplish, and I want to do everything in my power to make sure I’m strong and healthy for the work, and fun, ahead.

There were times during my treatment journey that I wasn’t sure I’d make it, and I could feel the dream I have of Michael and me teaching THE SPIRIT FACTOR philosophy around the world slipping away.

Feeling that all the hard work we had done, the sacrifices we had made, and the time we had spent writing the book would be lost made me incredibly sad. I felt sad, too, for all the people we wouldn’t be able to help because I know the information in THE SPIRIT FACTOR is needed now more than ever.

But now, I know that if I continue to make healthy choices and work hard, I can make my dream come true. And that is worth any effort my new, healthier life will take.

I’m happy to be back! I look forward to sharing more of THE SPIRIT FACTOR with you and the world! Maybe you will be inspired to join me on my new, healthier-life journey so we can create a (R)EVOLUTION of spirit, together!

It is time, don’t you think?

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In Spirit,Marie Kukula-Tyner

YET ANOTHER LONG-OVERDUE GOODBYE

It’s been a while since I’ve posted. I will be writing a longer post explaining why. Right now, I’m working on healing, which is requiring me to look at a lot of things in my life, especially on an emotional level.

Today, as I sat quietly in our garden, I realized that long-held anger has manifested into toxic matter in me physically. While there’s a lot to be angry about in the world right now, I don’t feel that this is new anger, and, interestingly, I don’t feel that it’s my anger.

This anger was given to me long ago and I’ve held on to it because I’m not sure I even knew it was there. But, today, it became evident that it is there and that it has been there for as long as I can remember. Now that I realize this, I will work on releasing this anger, prying myself from its terminal grips, which will allow me to discover who I am without it.

This epiphany in our garden today reminded me of a poem I wrote years ago, A Long-Overdue Goodbye (see below), when I was releasing some old emotional trauma. I end Chapter 19, Your Mind, of The Spirit Factor with this poem. I’m sharing it here because, like me, I’m sure many of you also need to say a long-overdue goodbye to something in your lives.

It may not be easy, but it’s necessary for us to not only survive but also to thrive. Life truly is a never-ending journey of letting go of things that hold us back and smother our spirits. So, today, let’s be brave together and say a long-overdue goodbye to what we need to let go of, whether physically, emotionally, or spiritually, and discover who we truly are without what we’re saying goodbye to.

I hope that my poem helps you with this process. Read it, meditate on it, and let it be your mantra as you free yourself and your spirit.

A Long-Overdue Goodbye

I’ve carried you around for quite some time
Little did I know, you were never really mine
I took on your burdens as if they were my own,
and you gladly handed them over, then left me to be alone

I waited for you, hoping you would come back for me,
but the days and months and years went by,
and never again did you I see
I tried to move on and hide my wounds from the world,
hoping no one would notice I was just a broken little girl

I looked for someone to rescue me from the prison of my pain,
but no matter how much others loved me, there it would remain
The inner war raged on for, oh, so many years
It was a brutal and bloody battle, that would never end, I feared

But just as I was ready to surrender and let my life slip away,
I realized I had suffered a debt that was never mine to pay
So I must say a long-overdue goodbye to the sins of our family tree
For I’ve decided that it’s time for me to finally be free

Marie Kukula-Tyner

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A Long-Overdue Goodbye

REMEMBERING AN OLD CHALLENGE WHILE FACING A NEW ONE

Marie in Garden September 2019

In the past, on November 7th, I always posted about the significance of this day to me. You see, on November 7th, 2000, I had surgery to remove a small benign brain tumor, and it was one of the most challenging yet transformational experiences of my life.

But this year, I didn’t post about that experience because I’m facing a new challenge.

If you read my post from September 4th, you know that I’ve had some serious health issues.

I haven’t felt like posting since then because I’ve been trying to conserve my energy for the healing my body needs to do and for the procedures I’ve been going through.

But I feel it’s important to share my story now because you never know who will see it and be able to provide information that might help me figure out what’s going on, or by chance it might even help someone down the road who faces the same health issues that I’m having now.

So here it goes.

Over the past 3 months, I’ve had six emergency room visits, countless chest x-rays, scans, blood tests, biopsies, an EHCO of my heart and an MRI of my head, and numerous appointments with the critical care pulmonologist who is caring for me.

The cost of my medical care over this time is approaching $100,000, yet I still don’t know what is causing the serious issues I’m having nor do I have a diagnosis that would allow for any kind of treatment.

Let me give you a little history:

On August 8th, I had an appointment with my primary care physician, who ordered an x-ray of my chest because I had cough and pain in my ribs under my right breast.

The x-ray showed fluid in the right side of my chest and nodules on my right lung. Due to the findings, my doctor ordered a CT scan with dye of my chest, which I had done on Monday, August 12th.

I could tell by the look on the technician’s face that what she saw on the scan was not good. But I had no idea how bad it really was.

At 5:05 p.m. that evening, I received a call from a doctor in my primary care physician’s office with the shocking results of the scan: I had a large pleural effusion, which is fluid in the chest cavity, on my right side that had almost completely collapsed my right lung, a mass in my upper right lung, and the lymph nodes on the right side of my neck were swollen so severely that they were blocking blood flow to my jugular vein.

Listening to the doctor’s words, I went in to shock, and handed the phone to Michael because I couldn’t process what he was saying.

The doctor told Michael that he was referring me to a critical care pulmonologist because he believed that I had cancer.

He ended the call with a compassionate “I’m so sorry.”

Michael and I hugged after he hung up the phone, and I cried. It was a surreal moment that seemed absolutely impossible because I take such good care of myself.

But no matter how “unreal” the findings of the CT scan seemed, they were real and had to be dealt with immediately.

My body confirmed that as it struggled to try to compensate and overcome whatever was going on inside of it.

Michael and I didn’t sleep much that night, and when morning came, I knew I needed to get medical attention right away because I could barely stand or walk short distances without losing my breath. So we got ready to go to the emergency room.

On the drive there, I told Michael that I didn’t have the energy to talk, so we quietly made the hour drive while my mind wondered if I would be able to survive until we arrived at the hospital. That’s how bad I felt.

When we arrived at the hospital, I was too weak to walk so Michael had to use a wheelchair to get me from our car to the check-in counter.

Because of the condition I was in, I was immediately taken to a room and placed in a bed between two other patients with only curtains separating us.

Blood was drawn, my vitals were taken, and nurses, admitting personnel, and the ER doctor came in to talk with me, all of them asking me questions about my health, if I were a smoker, and a million other things I don’t remember.

While this was going on, we received a call on my cell phone from the pulmonologist’s office I was referred to wanting to schedule an appointment with me.

Michael told them that I was in the ER, and within an hour the pulmonologist was sitting next to me, explaining my care plan, which required tests and biopsies to rule out cancer.

When he told me this, I cried, and he gently held my hand, looked me in the eyes and said, “We are going to find out what’s going on, and you are going to be okay.”

Even though, at that moment, it seemed impossible, I believed him.

The most urgent thing that had to be done was to drain the fluid from my chest that had collapsed my right lung.

Within the hour I was having a painful procedure done to place a chest tube in, through my back, which would allow the fluid to be drained. Once it was in, the nurse started draining the fluid.

While it didn’t take long to drain 1500 ml of fluid, yes,1500 ml, it was a painful process as my lung unfolded and expanded, causing me to cough and gasp as air inflated it.

The fluid was sent off to be biopsied. I weighed 8 pounds less after it was drained.

A biopsy of the inflamed lymph node in my neck was planned after this procedure, but as I was being prepped for it, I felt as though my body was in shock and couldn’t take anymore trauma. So the biopsy was rescheduled for the next day.

I spent the night in the hospital, not sleeping much because I was still in disbelief at what was happening.

The next day, I had to be squeezed in to the schedule to have the biopsy so it was early afternoon before I was wheeled from my hospital room to where the procedure would be performed.

Michael was in the room with me, and as I was being prepped for the procedure, we heard the doctor who was going to do it, say, “We’re looking for lymphoma.”

I was on my back, staring at the lights above me, but turned my head towards Michael with a terrified look on my face. He quietly said, “It’s going to be okay.”

I wasn’t so sure.

I was released from the hospital shortly after the biopsy procedure, feeling good because I could breathe so much better with two fully inflated lungs.

Now we had to wait for the biopsy results.

Fortunately, it was only a few days before we found out that the biopsies were negative for cancer.

Even so, my pulmonologist said that “lymphoma can hide” so he wanted me to have a PET CT to see if there were any other areas of concern.

I had the PET CT a week later, and it showed many lymph nodes in my chest that raised concern. It also showed that I was continuing to accumulate fluid.

Because of these issues, I had to have an invasive procedure to remove and biopsy tissue from my chest and the chest tube had to stay in so I could have the fluid drained as it accumulated.

Fortunately, again, no cancer was found in the tissue. But the chest tube ended up having to stay in for 5 weeks, which was painful and made it impossible to find a comfortable position to sit or sleep in because of the location of the tube on my back.

Over the next month I went through the many procedures I mentioned at the beginning of this post, but still no diagnosis could be made.

Then, in the middle of all of this, only a few days after getting out of the hospital, something dawned on me: I had had my teeth cleaned on August 5, only three days before I had the chest x-ray at my primary care physician’s office and eight days before I ended up in the ER.

I realized that after I had my teeth cleaned in March, the lymph nodes on the right side of my neck had swelled up a few days later and I felt like I had an infection.

I soon realized that I had been sick ever since I had a tooth refilled on October 12, 2018. After this procedure, I developed a deep, chronic cough and pressure in my chest that prevented me from lying down flat to sleep. In addition, I had constant pressure in my sinuses and small amounts of blood coming out of my nose.

I created a timeline of dental work I’d had since October and how I had gotten sicker with each procedure. It was astonishing!

I sent the timeline along with a letter explaining it to my pulmonologist, and also emailed him medical papers I found online about people who had experienced the exact same issues I had after having dental work.

While the information was compelling, my pulmonologist still continued to do all the tests necessary to rule out lymphoma and lung cancer, and even presented my case to the Tumor Board at the hospital because of how unusual it was.

During an emergency room visit on September 15, I had a CT scan of my chest done, which my pulmonologist had at my appointment with him the next day.

The results were nothing short of a miracle: Fluid was no longer accumulating in my chest and the mass in the upper part of my right lung had shrunk significantly.

He showed me the scan and with a big smile on his face said, “Cancer just doesn’t shrink on its own.”

It was such a joyful moment!

The only appointment that was scheduled at that time was a follow up with his office in 5 weeks and a chest CT to be done prior to the appointment to make sure my condition continued to approve.

Up to that time, I had done a lot of research online about dental work and the serious health issues it can cause, and I came across information that discussed reactions that patients can have to the materials in both silver and tooth-colored dental fillings.

I was convinced that I was having a reaction to the materials in my filling because I’d been sick ever since my tooth was refilled in October of 2018.

So I did research and found a biological dentist, who uses biocompatible materials to fill teeth, and scheduled a consultation and an appointment to have the filling replaced again.

I coordinated this with my pulmonologist, who wanted me on a short course of antibiotics and steroids, starting prior to the dental procedure.

I was feeling fantastic from the middle of September and for a week after I had the filling replaced on October 9th. The picture of me with this post was taken during that time. Then I started to feel the same symptoms I had after I’d had my teeth cleaned on August 5th.

A CT scan done on October 18 confirmed that fluid is accumulating in my chest again and that the mass in the right upper part of my lung is still there.

So I’m back to having more tests, and possibly a surgery, to try to figure out what is causing these issues that flare up after I have dental work.

As I mentioned in my September 4th post, I have found a place of “neutral” to rest in during all of this uncertainty. But I will admit that I have had days where I am depressed, anxious, and feel like giving up.

I appreciate the friends and family who have called, texted, and checked in with me over the past 3 months, offering support, encouragement, and information that has helped me through this challenging time.

I know that there is something causing the issues that are going on with my body and that we’re close to figuring out what that is.

If you have experienced anything similar to what I’m going through or know someone else who has and you can provide any information that could help me put the pieces together, please, please share it … because it could not only help me but also many others.

To all of you who are going through uncertain times as I am now, my heart is with you. I’m sending love and healing energy to you, hoping you find peace and patience on your road to recovery.

In spirit,
Marie Kukula-Tyner

REMEMBERING 9/11: UNDERSTANDING THE POWER OF THE COLLECTIVE, INTERCONNECTED EXPERIENCE WE ALL HAD THAT DAY AND HOW WE CAN INTEGRATE IT INTO OUR EVERYDAY LIVES

Twin TowersIn Chapter 32, You + Me = US: Our Collective, Interconnected Experience, of THE SPIRIT FACTOR, I talk about the collective, interconnected experience we, and people from around the world, had on September 11, 2001 and explain how and why this happened.

As we remember this tragic day, I am sharing an excerpt from Chapter 32 and also from Chapter 13, God, which is in the obstructions section of the book, because it also talks about 9/11.

I hope these help you understand why tragic events like 9/11 unite us and how we can collectively live from this powerful place every day, and not just in times of tragedy:

Chapter 32, You + Me = US: Our Collective, Interconnected Experience:

THROUGHOUT OUR LIVES WE HAVE BOTH individual and collective experiences.

Our collective experiences can be with other people or small groups, such as our families or the people at the companies we work for, in the towns where we live, and the schools we attend, etc.

Then there are the collective experiences we have with a large number of people, such as with the people in the country where we live or even many people from around the world. These collective experiences bring us together for a brief moment—or for much longer—to celebrate, cheer, support, grieve, mourn, speak out, or stand up.

The most powerful example of a large-scale collective experience I can think of (which I’ve mentioned before) happened when the World Trade Center’s Twin Towers in New York were attacked and destroyed on September 11, 2001.

Together, as individuals, countries, and the world, we watched in shock and disbelief as both towers fell into piles of rubble.

As the events of the day unfolded on live television, we collectively grieved for those who died and for the loved ones they left behind, while cheering for the heroes who so courageously responded to the disaster.

It didn’t matter where we lived, what language we spoke, how much money we had or didn’t have, what color our skin was, if we knew anyone who worked in the towers, or anything else for that matter; we were all deeply affected—instantaneously feeling the pain, the loss, and the gravity of what was happening.

In that moment, the world changed forever, and we all knew it.

I have never before and have never since felt anything that compares to what I felt that day. To me, it felt as though every particle in the universe was grieving.

For the most part, we all experienced the same feelings—not intentionally, but instinctively—without thought or reason or anything else.

When a tragedy of this magnitude happens, our obstructions to spirit that make us feel separate from each other in our everyday lives, for some reason, disappear. And when they do, there is nothing to stop us from feeling the pain of what is happening. It travels across the universe, through the infinite web of invisible interconnectedness, instantaneously affecting all of us, bringing us together as one all-inclusive tribe.

At these times, there is no doubt that we are all somehow and in some way connected.

Collective Potential

These moments show us the potential we have to instantaneously connect with each other on a global level when obstructions to spirit are out of the way.

But we don’t have to wait for a tragedy to happen to experience this. Spirit does not go away in our everyday lives only to reappear in times of tragedy. It is always there, ready, willing, and able to bring us together when it is unobstructed.

But for this to happen, we will have to change the way we think, act, and move through our daily lives.

Yes, I know, change can be scary. Because of this, we resist it, even when we know it will create something better. This resistance, or unwillingness, to let go of antiquated beliefs and ways of doing things that cause pain and suffering is what stops us from evolving both individually and collectively.

We can become a bit more open to doing things differently when our suffering or pain reaches a level that can no longer be denied. But even then we can be slow to take action.

Unfortunately, I feel this is where we are in the world today—it has become too painful to continue on the path we are on.

While many of us know this, there are other people, businesses, politicians, and governments who benefit when things stay the same. So they will fight to stop progress, even if it means adamantly denying the existence of any problems, especially if they’re the ones causing them.

Chapter 13: God

Spirit Always Does the Right Thing

Spirit always does the right thing. It doesn’t wait, analyze, question, or discriminate—it just does.

I know we humans are capable of this kind of “doing,” and I know you know it, too. We have seen it countless times on television—and maybe even a few times in real life—in emergency situations or times of disasters when immediate action is required to save lives.

The most powerful example of this I can remember happened on September 11, 2001, when the world watched the incredible acts of heroism in the aftermath of the terrorist attacks on the World Trade Center Towers in New York.

Race, religion, political differences, and anything else that divides us in our everyday lives, disappeared as we collectively watched, collectively cried, and collectively cheered for the heroes who quickly took action to save so many lives.

They didn’t wait for God to tell them what to do or for Him to save people. They took action.

In this horrific moment, as we watched mere mortals take God-like actions with courage, compassion, and strength that is seldom required in everyday life, we witnessed Unobstructed Spirit (US) and its profound possibilities.

When there is no time to wait, analyze, question, or even pray, we will do the right thing.

The obstructions that stop us from stepping up and taking action in our daily lives are temporarily removed, and when they are, we will risk our own comfort and safety to help or save others.

As I said before: Spirit always does the right thing. And we do, too, when our obstructions are out of the way.

Possibilities Exist with Spirit

Can you imagine the world we could create if we lived every day from this place of Unobstructed Spirit (US) that we witness in times of tragedy?

I can, and often do. It’s what has provided me inspiration many times during the long processes of writing this book.

But it took more than just this to keep me going. I had to truly believe that the world I imagined could be created. And the more I wrote and lived the SPIRIT FACTOR, the more I knew it could be created.

I saw how removing obstructions to spirit transformed my life, and I knew other people could transform their lives by doing the same.

In reality, all it will take for us to create a world of Unobstructed Spirit (US) is for each of us to live lives of Unobstructed Spirit (US). It really is that simple.

Even so, I’m not naïve enough to believe that we will be able to live every day without obstructions to spirit. But by striving to live this way, we will create more and more days in our individual lives where we do live this way.

And if enough of us do this, we will begin to create a world of Unobstructed Spirit (US).

Learn how to live a life of Unobstructed Spirit (US) in THE SPIRIT FACTOR! Available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle versions!

The (R)EVOLUTION of spirit starts now!

How I Discovered the Power of Resting In “Neutral” When the Future Is Unknown

Neutral Cropped FinalThe past three weeks have been nothing short of a nightmare. I had some serious health issues come on suddenly that have led to 4 emergency room visits, with one ending in an overnight stay in the hospital, and a slew of procedures, tests, biopsies, scans, and x-rays to help the doctors make a diagnosis.

I’ve been scared and overwhelmed since my husband Michael rushed me to the ER three weeks ago because I was having difficulty breathing while walking short distances and even just standing.

Before we left our home, I kissed our dog Amber on the head, thinking it might be the last time I saw her sweet face, and looked around our home and property, wondering if I would see them again while thinking about how much I’ve loved living surrounded by nature.

I felt this way because a CT scan of my chest the day before showed some shocking and devastating findings, and at that time, it felt like I was dying, the life force in me growing weaker by the minute to the point I had to use a wheelchair when we arrived at the ER.

The news has gotten better over the past few weeks, but there is still a mystery as to what is causing the health issues I’m having so the tests continue.

Last week, while waiting to have one of these tests, I found it easy to not go to a dark place and imagine all the horrible, terminal things I could have, but I didn’t have the strength to be positive and allow myself to believe that everything would be okay. It just seemed too far of a reach considering how my body felt, the results of some of the tests, and what I overheard some of the doctors discussing.

So in that moment, I decided I would stay “neutral” about my situation, and not try to predict any positive or negative outcome. I would just stay “neutral” as I took in information and test results as they came. No thinking too far ahead, no jumping to conclusions, no “what ifs,” just taking it one minute at a time.

With this decision, I could feel a heavy burden lift and the overwhelming feelings I was having diminish. Being “neutral” felt doable and lighter than trying to be positive, and it also took much less energy, which I was short on.

My body was struggling not only from what was going on internally but also from being pocked and prodded by doctors, nurses, and other hospital staff. Staying “neutral” allowed me to just be, without the added emotional stress of thinking negative thoughts or depleting my limited energy by forcing myself to stay positive. “Neutral” was a balance point in between the two, where I could rest and relax. Understanding this was truly a transformational moment for me!

Being “neutral” in challenging situations when the future is unknown is not something I’ve ever considered doing; I’ve always thought my choices were to face these situations with a positive or negative attitude.

But, man, “neutral” is a really powerful place to rest in to reduce stress, conserve energy, and to be present to take in information and facts from a reality-based place, not from a distorted place that being too positive or too negative can create. It stops our minds form creating scenarios that are not based on facts, depleting our limited energy and causing unnecessary worry and stress.

As I continue on this journey, if I find myself getting too far ahead of the reality of the situation or if I find myself thinking negative thoughts about “what could be,” I will remind myself to go to the powerful place of “neutral” so I will have the energy I need to face whatever comes next.

In essence, this is what THE SPIRIT FACTOR is about: removing obstructions so we can see the truth and live from a reality-based place. What I’ve realized these past 3 weeks is that I have truly integrated the concepts and philosophy of THE SPIRIT FACTOR into every cell of my body and I have removed most of the obstructions in my life so that in challenging times I can easily go to the unobstructed place of “neutral.”

I will write more about this subject in the coming weeks, but I felt compelled to share this information with you now because I feel it’s important, valuable, and even urgent for those who are struggling.

If you are facing some unknowns in your life, I hope this place of “neutral” will help you as it has me. Please share with me if it does so we can heal and grow together.

THE SPIRIT FACTOR is available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle versions.

In Spirit,
Marie